Let’s be honest, no matter how old our children are they can easily get on our nerves. Whether they are old enough to intentionally push our buttons or they have a tantrum over wanting a blue cup instead of the red cup, showing up as the mom we WANT to be is important.
Since I started attending Parent Coaching School, I’ve been using daily intentions to help ground me. I was really surprised at how patient I felt on days that I used them. So, I figured I would share a few of my favorite daily intentions that have helped me to show up as the mom I want to be.
3 Daily Intentions for Moms (To be Calm + Patient)
Before I share the intentions I use each morning, I think it’s important to note that you may not notice a difference right away. It took me about 2 weeks to see REAL change.
It’s important to stick with your morning intentions and put them some place you see often. I like to put a new sticky note on the refrigerator so I can see it each time I’m making a meal.
Anyhow, I hope that these help you along your journey to becoming the parent you’ve always wanted to be!
1. Today, I will choose to…
- Enjoy the few minutes a have to myself.
- Sit and watch my kids play uninterrupted
- Look for the POSITIVE moments and PAUSE when I notice them.
2. Today, I’m making a promise to myself that I will…
- Listen, when my kids are asking for my attention
- Put my phone down and spend one-on-one time with my child.
- Apologize for any mistakes I make throughout the day.
3. Today, I will strengthen my relationship with my child(ren) by….
- Listening
- Pausing before I react
- Slowing down and prioritizing my needs so I can show up as the mother my children need.
How Daily Intentions Help Me Parent Better
I feel like I’ve become a happier mom ever since I started using these daily intentions. Although it did take some time for me to remember them throughout the day, I did notice myself looking for them in every moment.
Because these are all positive intentions, I found myself feeling more optimistic about my day….. even after we had worked through some big emotions. Which was HUGE progress for me.
I’ve noticed a shift in my kids’ attitude and even their body language. After this, I did some research on children and how long they need us to co-regulate them. Truthfully, I was shocked. According to The Ot Tool Box, kids co-regulate until they are 7 years old.
This made me realize that I had set WAY too high of an expectation for my children’s behavior. If I am having a hard time regulating myself…. How in the world can I expect my 3-year-old to control her behavior? In short, I was being unrealistic.
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My Thoughts…
Being a stay-at-home mom means that I am carrying a LOT of the mental load. If you have little kids, this means you are not only regulating your child but constantly caring for their needs as well! Whether you feel overwhelmed, angry, or anxious, I hope these daily parenting intentions help you to become the mom you WANT to be!
