What does it look like to be a godly mother? In the world we live in, it’s easy to take what we see on social media or what we see other Christian moms doing and believe that is what we should be doing. How these woman are living their life isn’t necessarily the Characteristics of a Godly Mom.
Becoming a mama was one of the holiest moments of my life. It didn’t just happen as soon as my daughter was born. As soon as I saw that faint line on the pregnancy test, my heart made a shift. I began to see life through the lens of Christ.
With that being said, I didn’t know what it looked like to be a Christian Mom. But I had a few role models that were a good example. They acted different than every other mother I knew. That’s when I began to dig deeper and started to study the Characteristics of a Godly Mother.
What I’m sharing with you today, is a snippet of my notes. It’s just what I’ve learned and what I believe God is calling me to as a Christian mom. When I study topics like these I read several different version of the Bible and look at commentaries from scholars.
My hope is that this post would encourage you to look at your Bible and read it for yourself. Let His word come alive…. Read it with the intentions that He would speak to you. With this in mind, let’s get into the Characteristics of a Godly Mother.
6 Characteristics of a Godly Mom
Verse: Isaiah 66:13
For the moment our child is conceived, our instinct is to nurture them. While we are pregnant we do everything we can to give them a healthy foundation. Once they are born, it’s natural to care for their every need.
As our children grow, we need learn how to nurture them during the stage they are in. Obviously this will look different for a baby versus a teenager. Knowing what this looks like can be difficult. The best thing you can do is pray that God would show you what your child needs from you.
My daughter is transitioning from a baby to a toddler. I’m finding that nurturing her still looks like cuddles when she is sleepy, but it also means play time on the floor. I think it’s important to always be observing your child, so that you can recognize these shifts and meet them where they are at.
Verse: 1 Peter 5:6-7
If you are a perfectionist (like me), humility may not come easily. Let’s be honest none of us are perfect mothers. Thanks to social media, we live in a world that wants us to believe that EVERYONE lives perfect lives. Reality is no one does, that’s why we need Jesus.
What does humility look like for a Christian mom? It’s when she knows that it’s only through God’s strength and grace that she can carry on.
This characteristic is important especially in front of our kiddos. It shows them that we must rely on the Lord because He will never fail us. We need to give Him credit in every situation.
Verse: Proverbs 31
I could do a study on just this chapter. There are so many golden nuggets to pull from it. One common theme throughout this chapter is that a mother and wife is dedicated to whatever God has given her. Whether that be a job, caring for their home, or their marriage, they don’t give up when things get hard. Instead they pray and seek the Lord for help and guidance.
Now you don’t need to be super woman. Being a godly mother means you stay loyal to your family, even when things get tough. Hang in there mama, you are doing amazing!!
Verse: Ephesians 4:31-32
As a godly mother, it’s important that we display a character of forgiveness. It’s easy to get upset with others and even our children, when we haven’t been treated fairly. We wouldn’t be human if this didn’t happen, but it’s important that we follow this up with forgiveness.
It’s not easy to forgive others, but when we look at all the Jesus endured it’s easier to extend grace to those who’ve wronged us. Show your children what TRUE forgiveness looks like. You might be surprised next time they offer true forgiveness. They will learn and model after you!
5. Ask for Forgiveness
Verse: 1 John 1:9
This might be even harder than having a heart of forgiveness. Often pride gets in our way. But, God wants us to confess our sins and ask for forgiveness.
Did your parents ever apologize to you for something they’ve done? If they did, you probably remember it. This act shows our children that we are not perfect, that we too need forgiveness, and that when we mess up Jesus wants to forgive us. This is an opportunity to show what our relationship with Christ looks like.
6. Love Unconditionally
Verse: 1 John 4:7
Showing our children unconditional love is an example of God’s love for us. This characteristic isn’t always easy, especially when our kids test our patience. But when we display unconditional love for our kids, they get a glimpse of how God loves us.
This looks like giving them grace when they mess up. Accepting who they are and what they enjoy, even if it isn’t our cup of tea. Unconditional love is when we give our children the freedom to become who God is calling them to be.
Although we can struggle to always act out of love, when we think about how our father gives us grace, we begin to soften our heats and extend unconditional love to our children.
How to be a Godly Mother in an Ungodly World
As we go throughout our day to day life, it’s easy to question if we are being a Godly mother. Between social media, our friends, and even tv shows (we love to binge watch), we are thrown so many different views of what a mother SHOULD act like. Most of the time it is an ungodly representation. Although these moms lives may look perfect and instagram worthy, are they a representation of Christ?
As a first time mama, I totally get how difficult motherhood can be. Even in the midst of struggle, it’s still possible to let the truth of the gospel show through in our daily life.
If I’m being honest, I wish my daughter came with a how-to manual. That would have made my life a whole lot easier. At times, I want to turn to a new podcast or book in hopes of finding an easy to follow blueprint. But, God gave us scripture to model after. It’s our guide on how to love and parent these sweet babies.
I know it’s hard to get into the word. Especially that first year after having a baby. It can feel impossible just to take a shower…. let alone read His word. But, I want to encourage you to read it. Take a few minutes each week to just sit and be in His presence.
Like I mentioned early, we don’t have a guide on how to become a godly mother. But, when we follow the Bible, pray for His guidance and rely on the Lord instead of ourselves, we begin to find ourselves acting more like Christ. Being a Christian mom doesn’t mean you have to be perfect. It simply means we need to trust Him, give ourselves grace, and love our precious children. That’s it.
Trusting in God is so important no matter what season of motherhood you are going through. Everyday we have to make so many decisions and we often fall short of the mother He is calling us to be. In these times, we have to ask for God’s grace and for the Holy Spirit to guide us. We must choose to be humble and accepting of the Lord’s correction, in order to be a godly mom.
Being a mom is not easy. But the truth is that we all STRUGGLE, despite what Instagram leads you to believe. Once you begin implementing these 6 characteristics of a Godly mom, you will begin to see a difference in how you parent. I’m praying for you mama!!
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